Thank you for visiting this page. Before you decide to become an au pair here in Europe PLEASE read and understand what is an Au Pair.

Definition of Au Pair

The word “Au Pair” is a French term, which means “on par” or “equal to”, denoting living on an equal basis in a reciprocal, caring relationship between the host family and the children. An aupair will typically be a young woman and sometimes a young man from a foreign country who chooses to help look after the children of a host family and provide light housekeeping. The aupair is given room and board and is typically paid a weekly “pocket-money” salary. Aupairs generally stay with their host family for one year.

A Short Background of the Au pair scheme

The goal of the au pair scheme was a cultural exchange where mostly young women availed in order to learn the culture and language of another country. In exchange of the board and lodging au pairs do baby sitting and light household chores to the host families.

Through the years in became so popular especially in Europe where it became the melting pot of au pairs. So in the late 60′s, November 24 1969, the member states of Council of Europe which became the European Union later formulated an Au Pair Placement to regulate the hiring of Au pair. Since an au pair is neither a student or worker they tackled all important aspects like the age, allowance, scope of work, hours of work, the cultural aspect which is learning the language, contract between host and au pair, responsibilities of host and consequences if there’s violations of the signed contract.

The said treaty or agreement was signed by Denmark, Spain, Italy, France, Norway and Spain and was in forced May 30 1971. (Luxembourg denounced the Treaty but Seven other countries have signed, but not ratified the treaty: Belgium, Bulgaria, Finland, Germany, Greece, Moldova and Switzerland.).

In 1994, the “International Au Pair Association” (IAPA) was set up to “self-regulate” the ever-growing au pair industry. The association currently represents 146 organisations in 43 countries, with another 20 soon to join.

It has called for a greater regulation of the sector in Europe to avoid exploitation of au pairs, and warns against the growing practice of recruiting au pairs from the Internet. The United States of America has an extremely well-regulated au pair sector, with detailed security checks, references and interviews before placements – regulations the IAPA would like to see emulated in Europe. However, even the US programme has been plagued with problems – from au pairs crashing family cars to alleged child abuse (at least three children have died while in the care of au pairs in the USA since the start of the programme in 1986). In fact, in the USA, au pairs are expected to work up to 45 hours per week, and are thus at risk of being exploited as a “cheap childcare option”: emulating the USA in this sector might thus not be the answer. ( Source: http://assembly.coe.int )

Since the different states still have different view and guidelines regarding au pairs the European Committee on Au Pair Standards wanted the Au Pair Placement Treaty to be updated. They have agreed that indeed the au pair is a Cultural Exchange Program.

According to the ECAPS they set the more precise definitions for au pairs, host families and au pair agencies. The following are the definitions of au pair.

Criteria for Au Pairs:

  • Between ages of 18 and 27 (the au pair may have not reach the age of 27 when they arrive in the host country)
  • Unmarried
  • Male or Female
  • Without defendants

Duration of Au Pair Programme

  • the length of stay shall be limited to a maximum of 24 months
  • a period of 12 months with a possibility(s) if extension(s)

Hours, Activities and Duties

  • up to maximum of 30 hours a week including childcare and babysitting in the evenings; Note: By defination babysitting is an evening activity
  • if an au pair has no options to undertake that task then that activity should be considered mandatory i.e not a voluntary action undertaken by the au pair. When the host parents leaves the au pair unsupervised ( and the au pir is expected tot ake care of the children ) then the au aupair is in duty and this time it should be included as a part in the 30hours / week maximum.

Leisure Time/ Holidays

  • Base on a 12 month stay the au pair receives a minimum of 2 weeks holiday. If the au pair stay is less than 12 months in an individual host family, then this period should be determined pro rata.
  • The length and duration of vacations are to be discussed and agreed in advance with the host family of any holiday taken.

The Role of the Au pair

  • Help the family with light households chores*
  • help with the routines;
  • act and integrate as a family member
  • Take part in activities;
  • Share his/her own culture to the host family and vice versa

Au aupair accommodation : Room and Board

  • The au pair receives full room and board from the family throughout the duration of the placement.
  • The au pair should have their own heated and furnished room (which is not shared) with a window. The au pair is obligated to keep it clean and tidy.

Pocket Money/Allowance

  • National Au pair associations will set the minimum and maximum level of pocket money according to the standard of living of each country; pocket money should be paid throughout the duration of the au pair agreement.

Insurance

  • The host family is responsible for the providing and paying for the adequate health, accident repatriation  and liability insurance during the complete duration that the au apir and the host family are sharing the cultural exchange.
  • The insurance is laways arranged in the host’s country not in the au pair’s home country.

Study

  • In the spirit of cultural exchange the au pair is expected to take the opportunity to study or participate in the cultural activities;
  • the time the au pair attends courses and/or  activities is during the free time of ten au pair. The au pair and the host family discuss which day(s) the au pair are able to attend;

Other Obligations

  • The motivation of the au aupair is based in enriching their knowledge of another culture and language, while he/ she has no financial reasons and/or reasons;
  • Respecting the host family’s cultural background and activities;
  • Submersing themselves in another culture in the widest sense of meaning, taking into acccount the house rules, expectations and local rules of the au pair programmes in the host country.
  • Ensure the rules of the local au pair’s programme the house rules /host family’s expectations and other (visa and residence permit) requirements are known;
  • In case the au pair requires a vis, all expenses in obtaining the visa(for example documents to  be arranged in the home country of the au pair) are to be paid by the au pair.

Remember that the rules and regulations stills differs from country to country and it alo depends on your agency but it will be advisable to check the host country’s rules.

16 Responses to “What is an Au pair?”

  1. kae says:

    Hi! Where can I find a family from Norway who needs au pair? I wanna continue learning my Norsk. =) Thanks.

  2. admin says:

    @Kae, try kang maghanap sa mga aupair sites or join ng mga aupair network anywhere sa net to get tips. I don’t do match making I just here to post information. Good luck

  3. jackie lou malijan says:

    i already a host family name sharon markey where i do pay my payment

  4. jackie lou malijan says:

    my host family came from united kingdom

  5. admin says:

    I’m sorry but only EU citizens are allowede to work as an aupair in UK. That is probably scammers who will ask you later to send some money for processing your application. Search their name in google to know what I mean.

  6. admin says:

    Is this kind of email you received

    please help me is this scam ? they also gave me their pic

    Postby gadis on Sun Dec 20, 2009 5:47 am
    WORK AS A NANNY FOR OUR FAMILY…‏
    Dari: Sharon Markey (sharonmarkey90@hotmail.com)
    Dikirim: 20 Desember 2009 4:36:33

    We are a family of 5 and we are looking for an AuPair or Nanny that is flexible with their time We are a family with both British and American nationality and we are currently in the United Kingdom. I work for a communications company as a communication officer in UK. My wife on the other hand works as an Air Hostess and is hardly ever home except once a week or sometimes twice . For the past 12 months she has been nursing our new born baby and she has currently been called back to work . She has just returned back to full-time work and feel as though our kids would be best served by having a nanny or an aupair.

    We are looking for someone that we can treat as part of our family/friend and not just as a nanny/aupair.Both my I and my wife are easy to get along with, want to make you feel comfortable and at home,the children like to act silly, but are easy going, and down to earth.We would like our au pair/nanny to be a comfortable care giving partner/companion/sister who is caring, flexible, and will have fun with our family.

    I would also love our au pair to go shopping with us, go out to eat with us, go to the movies with us, participate in family events, go on trips with us share holidays with us, etc.–become a part of our family.We really want someone who will pro actively talk, sing, laugh, interact, engage with the kids. We would really enjoy a light-hearted, fun, and enthusiastic person who’s ready for a neat British experience with a young, active family.We have an extremely supporting family here in the area, and the children’s grandparents play very active roles in their lives.We are looking forward to the opportunity of meeting you and having you become a part of our family.We will send you pictures of the family in response to your next email. You can reply us at sharonmarkey90@yahoo.com as my husband has the chance to check it regularly in the office

    Thanks
    Sharon and Richard Markey

    RE: Welcome to my family‏
    Dari: Sharon Markey (sharonmarkey90@hotmail.com)
    Dikirim: 20 Desember 2009 15:30:59
    Kepada:
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    Hello I am very happy you are interested in taking care of my kids.You are welcome to my family.I promise you will have a nice time with my family. We live in Sussex not too far from the Gatwick Airport, Am sure the kids will never give you any problem.We have three Kids Brian 9years Kira 6yrs and angel 12months.You dont have to do all the housework,All you need to do is take care of the kids, take them to school and get them when its time and take good care of them when they are at home.They kids love going out to dinners and love watching movies.Am willing to be paying 350Pounds for your salary per Week.In Addition,if you are willing to live in with the family, we are ready to provide you with a suitable accomodation including a car thats if you can drive.You will be entitle to free time at the weekends If you chose.Hope you are satisfied with all the answer and hope to hear back from you.Concerning your travelling papers,I can recommend you to a very reliable travelling agency that will make your travelling papers ready in few weeks.Here is their contact email as they were the ones who prepared the visa and paper works for our current aupair who is from Belgium who is getting married at the end of next month which is why we need another one urgently and after your mail we think you are suitable. Please contact them in regards to your own papers and let us know what they said.This is their email aupair_travels@hotmail.com or visit their website for more information by clicking this link http://americanaupairstravel.com/ i am very sure they would know the right papers to send to you.Please tell and send us more pictures of you. You can call me on any of this numbers +447023042577,+448715724834,+447023014693,+448715722872 .I have also attached your working contract so you will know what you will be doing..
    Thank you

    Source:
    http://www.scamwarners.com/for.....mp;p=19118

    Ingat lang po NO FILIPINO AUPAIRS to UK only EU Citizens

  7. psyche says:

    Hi!
    Good Day!

    I already have a host family in Germany. I am from the Philippines. I would like to ask what are the things that are to be needed in the airport, if ever they will ask me something. I already have my Visa.

    Thank you.

  8. The UK government has long stopped issuing au pair visas since 2006 kaya wala ng possibility for Filipinos to work in UK as au pair. Marami akong pinost sa blog ko na au pair letters at kahit nga mga taga EU ay nakakatanggap din ng mga ganitong letters. I really hope walang maloko kasi ang tanging bansa na tumatanggap ng au pair from the Philippines is the US (pero parang wala na ding nakakalabas through this program kasi abusado rin iba nating kababayan). Don’t be fooled, may research muna kayong mabuti.

  9. wendy says:

    ganito din ang natanggap ko na email…ano pa ang gagawin ko nakapagsend na ako ng pera americanaupairstravel@usa.com? ngayon ko lng nalaman na scam pala yon.Dios ko inutang ko pa naman ang pera na pinadala ko…Please tulungan nyo po ako. her name is Maureen Collins.

  10. admin says:

    Alam mo mahirap na yan pag nakapag bayad ka na. INgat ka na lang next time. We are vulnerable dahil gusto tlaga nating umalis sa bansa natin eh.

  11. yam says:

    hello kae,if you want try to visit..www.aupair.com…or http://www.greataupair.com……you need to register out there,but what can i suggest you if you know someone better if they will recommend you,because i got cousins before in norway her family host friend in needs of an au pair so they recommended my another cousin or else just try to visit with websites…god bless

  12. yam says:

    the only thing na magbabayad ka is the processing of your application in norwegian embassy manila..if approve na visa mo,the family host will be shoulder your air tickets,you dont bother to buy tickets kc galing na ako sa norway..or depende sa family host mo if makiusap ka na pay later the air ticket pwede kang makiusap…kaya mga kapatid hwag matakot kc ala nmn kau dapat bayadan,ung lng sa pag process mo ng application sa norwegian embassy manila…

  13. jack says:

    hello, xxxx , i just wanna ask dat how long does ur visa approved by the embassy kasi i have my employer also in german ythen my problem is i dnt knw how to speak german language , wud it be a problme..?plz reply…

  14. Shayne says:

    hi… i just want to ask kung anong mga countries and tumatanggap ng au pair from the Philippines? at kung saang websites magandang magpost ng ads as an au pair. thank you…

  15. Faith says:

    hi…just want to ask kung may filipino aupairs ba sa france? and kung ilang months yung processing ng visa…andito ako sa denamrk ngayon..thank you po

  16. admin says:

    @Faith I’m afraid there are no filipino aupairs in France I was there last year and meet the filipino community where we discussed the plight of au pair here in DK.
    But I will try to search further and post it here.

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